Why is often times so hard to feel good for other people? Feeling good for other people when they achieve a certain level of success or a new level in life, can be challenging. I know it sounds a little strange, but really think about this one.
I have comes across many situations in my life where my accomplishments almost felt like nothing at all because I felt like no one even cared about what I did, or what I was doing.
And I think that we can ALL feel this way.
And I can say the same for myself. Honestly; sometimes others will tell me of the great things that they are doing, or I see their accomplishments and I become intrigued with their motivation and success. Maybe even jealous. And I am not afraid to admit it because as a human being, jealousy is apart of our nature. But, we can always train ourselves out of it, and I am going to share a few tips on how to do this.
So, why is it so hard for us to feel good for others?
Three things that I have found that hold us back from genuinely feeling happy for other people >
1.) We are insecure with the foundation that we have laid for ourselves.
2.) Disbelief in who we are
3.) The inability to self realize/explore
So, let's start with #1
1.) We are insecure with the foundation that we have laid for ourselves. In other words, we struggle to feel success in our own lives.
This prevents us from being happy for other people, because we are not happy with ourselves.
How can you be happy for other people when you are not firm in your own foundation?
This makes complete sense to me, because if I am not firm in my foundation, I am going to look to other people and what they are doing with their lives in search of what I should be doing.
Key word should because we should never look to other people in search of the plan and will that God has in store for us.
Everyone has a different path that they are led to take. So, looking to other people and the road that they are going down is not going to make your foundation any more firm.
We have to be in search of the path the God has paved for our lives.
When we look to Him for truth, salvation, redemption, healing, and hope, we can look at those around us and see the purity in their lives because we are satisfied with the purity in ours.
Jeremiah 33:3 says, "Call to me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know."
So, I challenge you today, to ask God for hope in the area of your life where you feel dwindled down or weak.
I want you to say this prayer, when you feel the need to be jealous of other people, rather than being genuinely happy for them and their success.
"God, I know the plans that you have for me are greater than the plans that I plan for myself. Help me, Lord, to whole heartedly seek your will for my life. God, I pray that I may find joy for those around me and the accomplishments that they achieve on a daily basis. Help me to be peaceful with where I am today, with what I am doing in my life, and with what I have done in my life. Thank you God, for all that you continue to do in my life. Please continue to live through me so that I may shine your light to the world. I love you God, thank you. In your name I pray, AMEN."
Prayer is so beneficial.
Because the one true healer and king is the only thing that could ever save us from any heartache, pain, or challenge that we may face.
Let's move on to
#2 >> Disbelief in who we are
I think that this is one of the biggest things that a lot of us struggle with.
Maybe we don't understand our purpose in life. Or maybe we don't believe that we could ever fully fulfill a purpose for our life.
But, we all have a different role to contribute to our family, friends, community, co-workers, etc.
The more we continue to not believe in ourselves, the more effort we put into trying to be someone else.
I recently wrote a quote that says, "Trying to be like someone else does not make you someone else. Being you does; It makes you someone different."
Now, to me, this quote reminds me of the truth that trying to be like someone else really does not make you that person. So, being jealous of that person only takes away the joy that you could put into becoming someone in this world that stands away from the crowd of similarities and "like minded" trends.
We can often become bored or distracted and so we turn to social media, and focus on all of the things that other people are doing with their life that we forget to put any effort into ours.
Let me be here to remind you that not many people on social media are true with their following.
Making them believe that their life is perfect and that no bad days or emotions exist.
And so we begin to wonder why we are the only ones who struggle. Because there are not many people who are open and honest with the truth in life.
That hard days ARE NORMAL.
That bad days DO EXIST.
And that life is full of ups and downs, and the way we can help our community, is to be open with the good and bad that happens in our life.
It's so important to not always believe everything that you see.
Thinking about the disbelief that I have in myself sometimes, makes me realize just how easy it is to become jealous of other people, and not want to be happy for them, because you don't believe that you could also feel that same happiness for yourself.
So, how the heck do we start believing in ourselves?
I know, from experience, that starting with just one thing, makes different areas in my life excel.
One thing a day, one quote, one expression of gratitude toward yourself, one affirmation, makes the biggest difference.
I want you to take a journal, and everyday write one thing that you accomplish that you are proud of. You can even make it a gratitude journal.
Remind yourself of all of the things that you do that lead to your future accomplishments.
We all do great things everyday.
I mean waking up in the morning can be the biggest achievement for some people everyday.
For everyone's situation and lifestyle, every little achievement no matter how big or small, should be big in the eyes of the achiever.
And it does not matter what other people think of your goals or achievements, it is what you believe that it will do that makes the biggest change.
So be bold and fearless and do not be afraid to stand up and believe in yourself.
Believe the most incredible things for yourself.
Believe that you can be the one to change the world to help other people believe in themselves as well.
The last thing that I have for your guys today is
#3 >> The inability to self realize/explore
Now, this is where I get into YOGA!
Now, I am sure you have all heard of me rant on and on about yoga, and I do it because I know what it can do for a person.
In the beginning of my recovery, it was not until I started yoga that things in my life started to keep making a little bit more sense.
It was not just alignment in my postures taking place, it was alignment in my life. I began to see that my yoga practice was happening off of my mat as well.
I believe that God gave me yoga for a very special reason.
A reason that to this day, I still cannot fully understand. (if we are honest haha)
Yoga is all about self realization. A gift of self exploration that helps you to keep your eyes off of the rest of the world in a jealous way and put your eyes on the good and genuine happiness that you have for your piers.
I believe that when we lack self realization, we are not able to pour any of ourselves into other people, because we do not have enough energy to even explore ourselves.
I believe that yoga is a mental renewal of regaining strength to put toward fueling our minds and bodies to begin the process of self realization.
No, it is not easy, and yes, you will be surprised with what you find, but it is all worth it.
Just like recovery it is all worth it.
Pain and experiencing fear is all worth it.
So, I hope that I was able to get the point across as to how yoga helps us to be happy for others, but just in case it was not clear in earlier statements, I will try to rephrase it so it makes a little bit more sense.
Being happy for other people means that you know who you are. Why? Because if we don't know who we are, we are going to constantly be searching for our truth.
Searching in other people, and therefore becoming jealous of who others are becoming.
Yoga starts the process of self realization in a way that connects the mind, body, and soul to become one again after being separated by some situation or circumstance.
The flow of the body with the breath creates a movement that respects the powerful effects of the mind and the healing energy that the body can perform.
We are to be humans that are capable of self exploration, and the pollution from the world prevents us from being able to do that.
So, I want to put the ability back into the world.
And, it can all start with one simple yoga class.
A yoga class that leads to the ability to find ourselves so that we don't have to search for it in others, and be content with who we are and where we are at, and be grateful for where others are in their lives as well.
I hope that these little phrases and words of advice were helpful for you guys in being able to find out some cool and interesting things about yourself.
Everyone of you guys is so unique and talented, and I want you to be able to see that for yourself.
I want you to be able to see the good that everyone one of you brings into the world.
Because we are all so special and unique, and we all deserve to know that.
But, it has to start with you reminding yourself of how great you are, because we cannot rely on the praise of others to carry us joyfully throughout our life.
I love you guys, and the LORD does too, and that is all that matters.
See you in the next blog :)